But in the last two years, or maybe over a period of time, I have come to learn that no matter how heart-breaking and disheartening it is, after you have been faced with such a situation; there is, indeed, a way out of the gloom that your life seems to have become. Being left alone by a close friend, when you have needed her/him the most might really be a tough time for people like me (I am supposedly "addicted" to my friends :P ). But just like they say, every cloud has a silver lining. So does this one. Yes, i have come across times when a really close friend has abandoned me. Not intentionally ofcourse, I'd like to believe. But for reasons beyond my comprehension- "being busy" being the most pathetic of them. And it is only with my fair share of experience, I allow myself to suggest you some little ways to overcome the vaccuum that is created after being abandoned by a loved one. This is supposed to be implemented ONLY after you have tried every possible thing on this earth to save and nurture your friendship. It is not something that might go along well with everyone. But, a little help never killed anyone ;)
>> First and foremost, accept that you have been abandoned (or whatever you would like to call that :P). Without that, it is impossible to cope up with the circumstances. Once you are sure what damage has been done, you can begin looking for suitable treatment.
>> Talk about the whole thing to one trusted person, but strictly avoid bitching about it to anyone and everyone you come across. Talking makes things better. Bitching, worse.
>> Learn to put your heart and mind into your work. From college assignments to job projects, anything that keeps you busy is good enough. That will give you less time to contemplate over what has happened.
>> Go out with your (left-over :P) friends and have fun when you have the time for it. There is nothing in this world (except death ofcourse) that has the authority to keep you from having fun and enjoying yourself :D
>> Do not go around looking for a replacement for a lost friend. That is the most stupid thing you can do to yourself, and the replacement. Because there IS no such thing as a replacement when it comes to friends ;)
>> Nothing works as good as family-love. In any goddamn situation on this planet, one thing you can depend upon is your family. You don't necessarily need to share the thing with them. Just being with them works wonders. It is a huge assurance that never fades :)
>> Re-discover a long-forgotten hobby. Reading works for me. Something else might, for you. It is a very rare and vital tool for finding and discovering your own self, at large.
>> All this does help, but the key is to give yourself time to bounce back. If you have been great friends for years, you cannot expect yourself to be alive and kicking in a matter of minutes. It does take time. But it heals. Just like every other thing.
>> Do not let the episode waver your faith in friendship. It is one incident, one person. As long as you can hope for happiness, there is huge possibility of finding it around yourself. :)
>> Last but not the least, learn to be at peace with yourself. Love being with yourself. Not always contemplating, sitting alone; but sometimes just Being! And nothing more than that.
Drifting-apart of friends sure isn't the end of the world, for sure. And these little things and some others surely work (in most cases :P).
However, most importantly, have the courage to take back your friend, if she/he chooses to find place for you. No matter how many years they have been away for. You were friends, and that is reason enough to forget all hurt, arguments and disagreements. After all, there is nothing like getting them back :)
Have a wonderful life ahead :)
