Happy Birthday Aditi!! 

Well .. yes.. I know this is not the best birthday gift ever, haan haan! But come on! I’m sure you can do with just this for the time being, you know your birthday presents are waiting for you somewhere out there!! In the shops ofcourse! You can’t expect me to have bought them already right?! I still have atleast 15 days B-) , not considering my previous record that is :P

Anyways, you know baby, I have been meaning to write this for months together, but making you crib about it just makes the whole experience grow tenfold! :P

Ok, let me get this straight to you! I love you! Soo much! And I don’t think I can have as close a friend ever in this life or another.

I love the way you make things going for me, every single time.

I love the way you have such a great and unique perspective about every goddamn thing in this world.

I love it when the same thing told by ten people looks rubbish to me, and then you, out of nowhere, tell me the same thing, in a way, that seems to put all the sense into it.

I love it when you call me every single Sunday, no matter what, (even if we have been talking every other day of the week), and the way you tell me I broke the rule when I don’t call you on Sundays :P

I love the way you let huge, problem-like situations go just like that, telling yourself and me that it’s no big deal.

I love the way you let little things get onto your nerve, saying this is what is going to shape our futures.

I love it when you talk all philosophical stuff. And it’s like you are talking my mind out!

I love it when you talk complete nonsense and tell me what a bore I am when I don’t seem to get most of it :P

I love it when you shop till you drop and then tell me every single detail about every little and big thing you got.

I love your little handwriting, and the way you take your assignments and notes and blah blah blah soo seriously. Nerd!

I love your little tricks that help me get through tight spots.

I love your answer to any imaginable question in this universe : “Google it! “

I love the random texts you send me just to tell me a little thing that happened through the day.

I love it when I don’t have to say a thing before letting you know “the thing”. You just know the look on my face sometimes, even the tone in my voice!

I love the way you have grown as a friend, and more as a person, over the last thirteen years. Thirteen awesome years I have had the pleasure to know you and know you more and know you more and more.

I love the grown up in you, the baby in you, even the granny in you!

I love the things I love about you.

I love the things I hate about you.

I love you girl!

And, this is just to let you know that if ever I had the choice of picking a third sister, it is not possible to imagine anyone but you, for that. You are not just a friend, you are my soul-sister. And no matter where life takes me ( I know it sounds soo-not-me), you will surely be a treasured part of it! :)

Happy Birthday again!

Cheer up! You are legally allowed to serve alcohol in bars now :P

21 & Clueless!

I am 21, and supposedly doing well. End-sem exams went off pretty fine. And if the "doing well" definition encompasses that then I am surely doing really well. Got a 15-days break lined up, that is supposed to be spent completely in the company of family and friends-my most valuable treasures.

But 21 ! Come on! Isn't that the time you should have things figured out?! As in where life is going right now, where it is supposed to be going and how is the transition going to occur- from where it is to where it should be..

Well, out of all these questions, I have answers to , well... let's see..umm.. err.. basically none. And that is reason enough to freak out on your birthday. When it suddenly dawns upon you- You are 21 ! Although the you-are-21 thing isn't that freaky, if not accompanied by the i-have-no-idea-whatsoever thing. Together, the combination is kind of a teeny-weeny disaster! :|

So? What's next? I should really start planning something. Let's see what I am clear about :-?

One thing is for sure. I want to do something huge! Be something huge. I don't want to do just-another-thing, be just-another-person. I guess that is what most people want :P
So figuring that out is not really a big deal :P, but it sure is one thing less to figure out :P

Next, I am sure how i picture myself 15 years down the line.
I should be a workaholic! Nothing less than that. I should be really really busy! Oh how jealous I am of all the busy people around me :P ! Probably, as I have been told, this is the kind of thing that spoils your life once you get to taste it :-/
Well, then let me say, I want to taste that sort of life :P

And yes, no matter what! Money is really really really important! You get the idea how important, right?! /)

Not really sure if it is possible to move ahead with this amount of insight, but that is all I have. And if that be it, let it be. I am surely gonna start working on something really worth it. Something that takes me to a place I really deserve to be. A place where my soul can breathe...

That clears out some stuff already, so now I am only left with deciding What-to-do-next. This post is kind of an improvement, no? Or am I back to square One? :-/
Did I even move to square two at any point ? :-/

Man! Hell, I am Clueless! :P

MoveOn Man! :P

As a teenager, I used to believe that moving away from old friends is a bad thing to do. Infact, I have hated a good number of people for having moved away, and eventually, moved apart. It is not one of the best things you can do to a friend, precisely.

But in the last two years, or maybe over a period of time, I have come to learn that no matter how heart-breaking and disheartening it is, after you have been faced with such a situation; there is, indeed, a way out of the gloom that your life seems to have become. Being left alone by a close friend, when you have needed her/him the most might really be a tough time for people like me (I am supposedly "addicted" to my friends :P ). But just like they say, every cloud has a silver lining. So does this one. Yes, i have come across times when a really close friend has abandoned me. Not intentionally ofcourse, I'd like to believe. But for reasons beyond my comprehension- "being busy" being the most pathetic of them. And it is only with my fair share of experience, I allow myself to suggest you some little ways to overcome the vaccuum that is created after being abandoned by a loved one. This is supposed to be implemented ONLY after you have tried every possible thing on this earth to save and nurture your friendship. It is not something that might go along well with everyone. But, a little help never killed anyone ;)

>> First and foremost, accept that you have been abandoned (or whatever you would like to call that :P). Without that, it is impossible to cope up with the circumstances. Once you are sure what damage has been done, you can begin looking for suitable treatment.

>> Talk about the whole thing to one trusted person, but strictly avoid bitching about it to anyone and everyone you come across. Talking makes things better. Bitching, worse.

>> Learn to put your heart and mind into your work. From college assignments to job projects, anything that keeps you busy is good enough. That will give you less time to contemplate over what has happened.

>> Go out with your (left-over :P) friends and have fun when you have the time for it. There is nothing in this world (except death ofcourse) that has the authority to keep you from having fun and enjoying yourself :D

>> Do not go around looking for a replacement for a lost friend. That is the most stupid thing you can do to yourself, and the replacement. Because there IS no such thing as a replacement when it comes to friends ;)

>> Nothing works as good as family-love. In any goddamn situation on this planet, one thing you can depend upon is your family. You don't necessarily need to share the thing with them. Just being with them works wonders. It is a huge assurance that never fades :)

>> Re-discover a long-forgotten hobby. Reading works for me. Something else might, for you. It is a very rare and vital tool for finding and discovering your own self, at large.

>> All this does help, but the key is to give yourself time to bounce back. If you have been great friends for years, you cannot expect yourself to be alive and kicking in a matter of minutes. It does take time. But it heals. Just like every other thing.

>> Do not let the episode waver your faith in friendship. It is one incident, one person. As long as you can hope for happiness, there is huge possibility of finding it around yourself. :)

>> Last but not the least, learn to be at peace with yourself. Love being with yourself. Not always contemplating, sitting alone; but sometimes just Being! And nothing more than that.

Drifting-apart of friends sure isn't the end of the world, for sure. And these little things and some others surely work (in most cases :P).

However, most importantly, have the courage to take back your friend, if she/he chooses to find place for you. No matter how many years they have been away for. You were friends, and that is reason enough to forget all hurt, arguments and  disagreements. After all, there is nothing like getting them back :)

Have a wonderful life ahead :)